Why Faking Orgasms is the Biggest Scam You’re Pulling on Yourself
Why Faking Orgasms is the Biggest Scam You’re Pulling on Yourself
You know what’s worse than bad sex? Pretending it was good. Faking an orgasm is like giving a standing ovation to a movie that bored you to death—you’re just encouraging a sequel nobody asked for.
But let’s be real, we’ve all been there. Maybe you didn’t want to bruise an ego. Maybe you were tired, wanted it to be over, or convinced yourself it wasn’t that big of a deal. But here’s the hard truth: faking it doesn’t just hurt them—it screws you over, too.
You’re Training Them to Suck in Bed
Think of it like this: If you hype up a bad meal at a restaurant, they’ll just keep serving it. Every. Single. Time. So when you fake it, you’re giving them a 5-star Yelp review for a performance that deserved a participation trophy.
💡 What to do instead:
Communicate—nicely, but clearly. If something isn’t working, don’t just suffer in silence. Give a little guidance. A well-placed “slower,” “harder,” or “right there, don’t stop” can work magic. If they care about your pleasure, they’ll want to know what gets you there.
You’re Gaslighting Your Own Body
Your body literally tells you what it needs. And you’re out here arguing with it like:
Body: "This isn’t working."
You: "Shhh, just pretend it is."
Sis, no. Ignoring what you actually need for pleasure is like ghosting your own self-worth. You deserve the real thing, not a performance worthy of an Oscar.
💡 What to do instead:
Learn what actually does work for you. Explore on your own if you need to. Figure out what you like, what turns you on, and what feels good so you can ask for it with confidence. Your partner isn’t a mind reader—so don’t expect them to just figure it out.
The Emotional Burnout is Real
Ever walked away from a meh experience and felt low-key frustrated? That’s because suppressing your own needs takes emotional energy. Over time, it builds resentment—towards your partner, your body, and even the whole idea of sex itself. Instead of something exciting and fulfilling, it becomes a chore.
💡 What to do instead:
Stop prioritizing their ego over your experience. If you care about them, and they care about you, they’ll want sex to be amazing for both of you. Drop the act, and start prioritizing your own needs. It’s not selfish—it’s the bare minimum.
Faking Doesn’t Fix the Problem—Communication Does
If something isn’t working, say something. A little direction never hurt anyone. It’s not about hurting feelings; it’s about mutual pleasure. A partner worth your time will listen, adjust, and put in the effort to make sure you’re just as satisfied as they are.
If they get defensive? If they think their ego is more important than your pleasure? Red flag. 🚩
💡 What to do instead:
Make sexual conversations normal. The best sex happens when both people feel safe enough to talk about what they want. If that feels awkward, start small:
“I love when you do that.”
“I want to try this.”
“Can we slow down/speed up/try a different position?”
Sex gets better when both people work together.
You Deserve Better. Period.
Bottom line? If you’re faking it, you’re settling. And we don’t settle around here. Your pleasure isn’t a side quest—it’s part of the main storyline.
💡 What to do instead:
Be with someone who actually cares. The right partner won’t see your pleasure as an optional add-on. They’ll see it as a priority. Because when both people are invested? That’s when things get really good.
So next time you’re tempted to throw in a fake moan just to end things faster, pause. Speak up. Make it real. Because your pleasure is not optional—it’s a requirement.
And if they can’t handle that? Well, Drawn Together has plenty of sexy, competent men who would. 😏
