Love isn’t supposed to feel like an anxiety attack in disguise. That all-consuming, make-you-sick passion? That’s not romance—that’s your nervous system throwing up red flags. But society’s been feeding us the lie that love should be overwhelming, messy, and borderline psychotic. Spoiler alert: it shouldn’t. Real love is steady, secure, and doesn’t leave you questioning your worth. If your relationship feels like emotional whiplash, you might be addicted to the chaos. Let’s break down why butterflies are actually a trauma response—not a love story.

Just because you get along with someone doesn’t mean you truly feel safe with them. The difference between comfort and connection can make or break a relationship—whether it’s love, friendship, or something in between. If you’re constantly performing instead of existing, is that really closeness? Or just coexisting?