The Love We Think We Want vs. The Love That’s Actually Good for Us

💌 The Love We Think We Want VS. The Love That’s Actually Good for Us

Welcome to our Valentine’s Week series, where we dive into the chaos, the beauty, and the absolute mind games of modern love.

With Valentine’s Day just two days away, emotions are running high. Whether you’re blissfully in love, cautiously optimistic, or aggressively side-eyeing couples on Instagram, there’s one universal truth:

Love makes us delusional.

Seriously—science says so.

• Dopamine spikes when we chase someone who keeps us guessing.

• Oxytocin bonds us to people (even if they’re terrible for us).

• Nostalgia tricks us into thinking the past was better than it was.

So, is it real love… or just your brain playing tricks on you?

💡 The Fantasy vs. The Reality of Love

Most of us don’t fall in love with a person. We fall in love with an idea—the highlight reel, the "what could be," the if only they changed version.

But real love isn’t just magic. It’s not just stolen glances, slow burns, and grand romantic gestures—it’s safety, honesty, and a consistent place to land.

So why do we keep craving the thing that wrecks us?

🖤 The Love We Think We Want:

✅ Intense.
✅ All-consuming.
✅ Feels like a challenge to “win” their love.
✅ Gives you butterflies (or, let’s be honest—anxiety).
✅ Leaves you breathless, second-guessing, wondering if it’s real.

💖 The Love That’s Actually Good for Us:

✅ Steady.
✅ Fulfilling.
✅ Doesn’t make you feel like you have to “earn” their love.
✅ Feels exciting, but also safe.
✅ Doesn’t make you question your worth—it affirms it.

And yet, we keep chasing the first one.

📖 The Drawn Together Kind of Love

Love isn’t always what we think it is. Sometimes, it’s obsession wearing the mask of passion. Sometimes, it’s control disguised as care.

In Drawn Together, Laina has already lived through the worst kind of love—a love that took more than it gave, a love that chipped away at her until there was almost nothing left.

Now, she’s in uncharted territory.

Adrian Pierce is magnetic, intense, and unpredictable, but unlike Jax, he doesn’t try to own her—he just sees her. But when the past has conditioned you to mistake pain for passion, can you trust something real when it’s right in front of you?

💭 Ever been so used to chaos that stability feels foreign?
💭 Ever mistaken possession for devotion?
💭 Ever had to relearn what love actually is—on your own terms?

Laina’s journey isn’t about choosing between two loves. It’s about choosing herself.

Because sometimes, the hardest thing isn’t walking away from the wrong love—it’s believing you’re worthy of the right one.

💖 If you've ever had to unlearn what love isn't before figuring out what it really is… then Drawn Together is for you.

📖 Read it now. Because you deserve more than just survival.

💌 So, This Valentine’s Day, Instead of Asking “Who Loves Me?”…

Ask:
✨ Does this love bring me peace?
✨ Am I thriving in this love, or just surviving it?
✨ If I let go of the fantasy, would I still want them?

Because love isn’t supposed to feel like a battlefield.
And if it does? Then maybe, just maybe—it’s not love at all.

💖 If you’ve ever had to unlearn what love isn’t before figuring out what it really is… then Drawn Together is for you.

📖 Read it now. Because you deserve more than just almost love.